I’ve been wanting to write this post for a while but time keeps slipping away from me. Work has been super busy since the start of the year and so any free time I get is swallowed up with family time, catching up with friends and general busyness, leaving very little time for blogging. Which is basically the point of this post.
It seems I have so many roles I am trying to fulfil – mother, wife, friend, daughter, lawyer, manager, colleague, committee member, blogger, dog owner, wannabe web designer… the list goes on! And although some of these roles are more important to me than others, it sometimes seems that the amount of time I spend focused on those is way out of kilter compared to those roles I place less importance on.
The problem is that work can be all-consuming when we have a deadline coming up, meaning I end up sacrificing family time. I then cancel plans to see friends as I want to spend time with the children. Committee meetings get missed and the work I promised to do at previous meetings gets pushed to the bottom of the pile. And then any time left over to spend with my husband usually involves me saying how tired I am!
The key killer is lack of time – there never seems to be enough time to do all I want to, or have to, do. I have tried various methods to try and find more time and to be more time efficient. From online calendars, to do list apps and Evernote, to trying my hand at a bullet journal (great in theory but quite time consuming in itself in practice!) and numerous time management techniques.
And if I do manage to make more time, I often end up wasting it watching rubbish on TV as I’m too tired to do anything else. So then I think if I have more energy then I’d be able to fit more things into the time I do have. And so every now and again I’ll have a concerted effort to try and boost my energy – trying to eat healthily and do more exercise but then once again work gets in the way or time gets the better of me!
The problem is I haven’t really found a solution that properly works. Which may well be that I am attempting to achieve the impossible – maybe, with so many roles in my life, I am never going to achieve the right balance.
Perhaps the answer is in fact that I need to streamline my roles so I can focus on just those that are really important. But which ones should go? Most of them I can’t give up and those that I could I don’t want to. Blogging for example isn’t something I have to do but I enjoy doing it and have put in a lot of time into it so don’t want to walk away now.
So I’m not really sure what the answer is. I suspect it involves trying to sort my priorities out, remembering that we work to live and not live to work and learning how to say “no” a bit more. Now I just need to find the time to put that into practice….!
Do you have any tips on how to achieve a better work-life balance?